Sex and Christians
A short introduction to Christian sex
You've probably heard about lots of different kinds of sex, like: straight, gay, raunchy, kinky, etc. But have you ever heard about an activity called 'Christian Sex'?
Probably not, or if you have, then the chances are you thought it was about going to bed with your pyjamas on! But then you'd be wrong: Christians believe God invented sex, including every kind of positive pleasure you can feel when you're enjoying it. The Bible says:
Genesis 1:31 "And God saw all the things that he had made, and they were very good." (my emphasis)
So would you like to know more about Christian sex? Hmm?
Because God invented sex, and He's revealed that He did that for us, we have an obligation (heavy word warning) to get the best we can out of it. Some people say the Church shouldn't pry into people's bedrooms - meaning it shouldn't tell people how to have sex. If so, then how are we all supposed to find out how to get the best sex - like God (who incidentally is very good) planned for us? Trial and error is all very well, but I'm talking about going after perfection! I know a couple who keep a sex-manual in their bedroom, but that's just something people have written. I'm talking about Divine instructions here.
Now in case you missed it, I just used a heavy word: obligation! But now the word's interesting for you, because it's not saying don't do something, or do something you don't want to, instead it's saying do something you do want to - and make it fantastic! Obligation just got exciting!
Perhaps you're not convinced. Maybe you think this is just some clever angle? On the about page I said I'd be honest with you. So OK, I'm not using the usual high-flown language to describe how the Church talks about sex. But God didn't invent sex for jargon-mongers. And that means it should be possible to explain these things using the language of normal lives.
I think I was lucky as a young man, to have known a priest who was not shy to talk about sex as it is. Some years back, before I ever knew him, he'd looked into the Church's teaching and reached a conclusion that regularly shocked people (in those days). It shouldn't have, because it's pretty obvious really, but people often overlook obvious things. His conclusion was:
"Marriage is based on sex"
You see by and large, everyone thought it was based on love!
But no, sex is the foundation on which marriage as an institution is based, whereas love is the reason for it. In marriage, the two (sex and love) ideally belong together - intertwined if you like!
Fine I hear you say, but why mention marriage?
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